The difference between try and triumph is the umph!

Good relationships take more than trying....they take commitment and constant focus.

But then you knew that!

If you want to be loved, be lovable.

Ovid

Make Your Wife Happy by Helping Out At Home

Not only do women like it when their spouse is helping out around the home, researchers (according to a little magazine I was reading the other day) say that 'of 1000 men surveyed 90% of them find that pitching in at home makes them happier with their wives than sitting on the sidelines'. When women are less stressed then they are more supportive and accepting of their husbands. When a wife has help its makes her happy.

Now I couldn't find out who the researchers were or where they had done their survey but I thought I would share that little tidbit with you so you can continue making your wife happy.

There are many more tidbits with concrete things to do in my ebook and you can get yourself a copy simply by clicking on the link that will take you to the website "How to Make My Wife Happy". Give your wife a treat and yourself a bigger one.

Why?

I just keep thinking about the why. Why is my business in place? Why is the organization I work for doing what it is doing? Why am I a part of it? Why are my husband and I together? Why do you want to keep your wife happy?

Its easy to understand why my organization is doing what it is doing. We have a mission statement. If I get confused I just have to check the mission statement and it will tell me exactly why we are there and what is expected of me. I just have to think about the activity in question and compare it with the mission statement. Do the two match? If so, then I should carry on doing the activity. If they don't - then the activity has to stop. And I find one that fits with our purpose.

I think a marriage is like that. What is the mission statement of your marriage? What a silly thing to ask! But if you think back to your vows of marriage, words like "to love and cherish, in sickness and in health" will probably jump into your mind.

So, going to the bar after work, drinking with the buddies and showing up in the middle of the night and without so much as a phone call probably doesn't fit onto the "love and cherish". Really? Well who would treat someone they love and cherish in that way? Shawna lived with a man who continually exhibited this behavior. One day she asked herself exactly that question. And even though the make up sex was great, she realized the marriage wasn't. She didn't feel loved and cherished. This wife was not happy! Shawna left. Darrell is still enjoying his buddies and they keep him company most evenings.

But then it gets harder. What if you both have an idea of what the new kitchen should look like and you think it will be best this way and she thinks it will be best that way? You say, I love and cherish you - and this will make our lives better if we do it this way. She has the same comment from a different point of view. In this case it comes down to working together to find a solution that you both can live with. In the end it is finding a way to love and cherish and letting go of having to be right.

I guess I am thinking about kitchens right now because ours is in the midst of being renovated. My husband is busy 'mudding' and 'sanding' and getting the wall ready for the new cabinets to arrive. He's working very hard. We didn't have any arguments over how the kitchen should look - fortunately. He's got a good eye for design and so mostly he has made the decisions. We had a slight disagreement about the color of the cabinets but in the end he got his color choice because, once again, I know he has a good eye. He has proved it to me in the past! We did stop everything though while we re-discussed the color of the cabinets. In the end we went with the lighter ones. And then I wanted stainless steel appliances, he wanted white appliances. I wanted the color of stainless steel but I didn't like the fact that I couldn't keep it clean and that - believe it or not! - that I couldn't put magnets on it. We discussed it. I really did not want white appliances! In the end we bought black ones!

How do you keep your wife happy? Think about why are you with the woman you love? Isn't it because you love and cherish her? And in the end doesn't it all come back to the fact that if you love and cherish and make her happy you will feel loved and cherished and happy too?

Just a thought for this morning....

Champagne Anniversary

Someone told me that when you have an anniversary and the number of years and the number of the date are the same, it is called your champagne anniversary.

So last night we celebrated our Champagne anniversary with champagne! It was lovely. A nice catered meal, roses from our garden as a center piece. The good dishes.

The best part of having a romantic evening is that our attention is focused on each other and not on other things.

Having told you this, I'm doing so because I know you are looking for ways to make your wife happy and I was a very happy wife last night! And I might add, my husband was happy too!

When ‘till death do us part’ has added meaning

New charity Wish Upon a Wedding helps terminally ill people fulfill dreams, celebrate.

This is great. Read on.

Wives, Waves, and A Good Day on The Ocean

Marriage, or any relationship for that matter, can be compared to the waves that you see on the ocean. There are some days when our marriage is going along smoothly just like a nice calm day on the ocean. We think that it is utopia and we enjoy the bliss this day can bring. But then a wind comes along and blows the water around and soon we have waves getting bigger and bigger. These waves can be compared to the emotions and disagreements that two people can find effect their relationship. Some days the water can be quite choppy! And we wonder how we will make it though. You may find yourself wondering "How can I make my wife happy?" There are seasons on the ocean....ones where the clouds come in and stay for days and weeks on end, but then there are refreshing rains and lots of sunshine at other times.

I guess what I am trying to say is that it is natural for there to be ups and downs, stormy weather, calm times and everything in between in a marriage. Don't despair because things might not be going as smoothly today as they were yesterday. That time can come again. You and your wife can be happy again.

If you would like help to get you and your loved one through the stormy times click here for help and great ideas to make your wife happy and yourself happier.

Oh! Oh! Watch out! Here comes a breaker! Hold on! (lol!)

Chuckle time!

Dispatcher: 9-1-1 What’s the nature of your emergency?
Caller: My wife is pregnant and her contractions are only two
minutes apart
Dispatcher: Is this her first child?
Caller: No, you idiot! This is her husband!

LOVE ME WHEN I LEAST DESERVE IT BECAUSE THAT IS WHEN I MOST NEED IT.
- Swedish proverb

Latest headline from the UK

Want to keep the wife happy? Be miserable or risk divorce.

Its an interesting little article that you can find here.

But if you really want to know how to make your wife happy, click here.

Happy Valentine's Day! All you men out there who want to please your wife know that this is a special day for the women of North America and beyond! Its the perfect day for all you men who are wondering "how to make my wife happy".

I will tell you that you don't have to spend money on your wife and that your actions are the important thing. And having said that I also have to say that my wonderful husband bought me a dozen long stemmed pink roses 4 days before Valentine's Day for me to enjoy all week long and then today he gave me a wonderful card that brought tears to my eyes. He handed it to me along with the cup of coffee he had made for me to start my day.

Very romantic? I think so! My husband knows how to make his wife happy!

He doesn't like me buying him cards and presents so I didn't. It was hard because I like to do that, but I knew that he wouldn't be pleased. And not receiving anything did please him. And I got a hug for it!!!

Supper tonight? Something romantic at home where we both want to be - together with no disturbances!

Important fact to remember: what is it that your wife wants to make her happy? What will make a woman happy is having a husband or lover who thinks about what she wants and doing those things that she has told you she likes.

I hope your Valentine's finds your relationship in good health and the two of you finding ways to please each other.

And don't forget, if you need more ideas, just click here to take you to a great many more concrete ideas that you can use to make your wife happy.

Valentine Thoughts to Text

I found these quotes on a website this evening and thought I would share some of them with you. Why not text your wife with one of these each day until Valentine's Day?

"If I could reach up and hold a star for every time you've made me smile, the entire evening sky would be in the palm of my hand."
-Unknown

"You don't marry someone you can live with - you marry the person who you cannot live without."
-Unknown

"Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking outward together in the same direction."
-Saint-Exupery

"A kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature to stop speech when words become superfluous."
-Ingrid Bergman

"Better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all."
-St. Augustine

"To love another person is to see the face of God."
-Les Miserables

"Love is but the discovery of ourselves in others, and the delight in the recognition."
-Alexander Smith

"The richest love is that which submits to the arbitration of time."
-Lawrence Durrell

“Very small degree of hope is sufficient to cause the birth of love."
-Stendhal

"There is no remedy for love but to love more."
-Thoreau

"Love cures people - both the ones who give it and the ones who receive it."
-Dr. Karl Menninger

"To love and win is the best thing. To love and lose, the next best."
-William M. Thackeray

"If you love someone, let them go. If they return to you, it was meant to be. If they don't, their love was never yours to begin with..."
-Unknown

"Some love lasts a lifetime. True love lasts forever."
-Unknown

"If love is great, and there are no greater things, then what I feel for you must be the greatest."
-Unknown

"The Eskimos have 52 words for snow because it is so special to them; there ought to be as many for love!"
-Margaret Atwood

"Love is like playing the piano. First you must learn to play by the rules, then you must forget the rules and play from your heart."
-Unknown

And don't forget to check out my website for all you husbands "How to Make Your Wife Happy and Yourself Happier"