Saturday, January 24, 2009

I love you more than....

He: "I love you more than all the stars in the sky."
She: "I love you more than all the snowflakes that have ever fallen onto the earth."
He: "I love you more than all the Oreo cookies ever made!"

It is a silly little game that Yvonne and Paul play and Yvonne laughed as she told me "You can really feel the love!"

Yvonne and Paul play it all the time: while driving in the car, while walking the dog, while cleaning up the supper dishes. Yvonne was telling me about it and had me playing this game over a game of cards last night.

Some husbands I know of say "I told you when I married you I loved you and if I change my mind, I'll let you know." For some people - actually for a few people - that may be all they need but I want to tell you that for most people - especially women - they need to hear it more often. Yes, I know, actions speak louder than words, but we still need to hear the words. Tell her "I love you" anytime of the day or night and anywhere you are. Yes, back it up with actions but please tell her.

Ways you can tell her "I love you":
  1. whisper it in her ear
  2. yell it to her in the other room
  3. write it on the top of a cake
  4. put it into a poem
  5. buy a card with it in it
  6. have it written in the sky
  7. put it on a billboard
  8. carve it into wood
  9. tramp it in the snow (that would be an accomplishment....take a picture and send it to me!)
  10. write it on the wet sand of a beach
  11. paint it on a canvas
  12. cut the letters out of a magazine and tape them onto the fridge.
I love you more than the number of blogs on the can you feel the love?

Thursday, January 22, 2009

Think About What You Say and Do

I want to share a little story with you that a client told me and told me it would be fine if I put it on my blog.

This man told me that he went through a period of time of being upset with his wife all the time. It didn't matter what his wife said it was wrong! Sometimes he would get mad at her and other times he would just stomp into another room and stay there. Then his sister said to him one day "You are sniping at your wife a lot!" And he thought, "Yes, I am. But why am I doing that? I love her. I love her being around." He told me "I forced myself to say to my sister "I know you are right, I'm going to have to change that." I did! I did say that and it was hard for me to do because deep down inside I'm Fonzie and I don't like to admit that I am wr...wrrrr....wrronng."

Just having that simple little chat, he turned his communication around. He is thinking before he reacts. He is taking that extra minute to think about what he wants to say.

What I want to tell you about this is that we all have an instant reaction to a statement or an action, but we don't have to respond with the first thing that comes into our head. We can take a minute, evaluate the effect of what we are going to say and determine if it is the right thing to say.

This is true for both men and women. And it can go a long way to having a happy and well-functioning relationship.

Friday, January 16, 2009


Just a little joke I found on Stumble and thought you might like...I'm afraid of spiders so I fit the bill....


I know I'm not going to understand women.
I'll never understand how you can take boiling hot wax,
pour it onto your upper thigh,
rip the hair out by the root,
and still be afraid of a spider.