Mixed Weather Forecast - Mixed Communication Messages

Today is a funny day weather wise - on my way in to town to see a client this morning the radio was reporting electrical outages all over the island. There had been great winds and yet where we live we were sheltered and never heard or felt anything! It was raining when I got up but by the time I was in the car driving to town the sun was shining. Coming back home later in the day the sun was still shining but the rain was falling hard enough I had to put on the wipers. BUT the sun was shining. A very confusing and mixed messages kind of day.

And how does that have anything to do with keeping your wife happy? I guess it has to do with the mixed messages. Don't give them.

Susan and Tom were husband and wife and they were having communication problems when they came to see me. Tom complained that Susan wasn't very polite to his friends. She said that she never said a bad word. Tom agreed. It wasn't the words she was saying, it was how she was acting. Her body language was screaming that his friends shouldn't be visiting while her words were sweet. No one felt comfortable.

We spent time dealing with the deeper issues and to make a long story short Susan decided that if those issues were dealt with then she could work on making her actions and her words say the same thing.

Do men do that? Do you ever do that? Say one thing and act another way? If you are saying yes or maybe to this question it could be time to take an inventory and address the issues that are underneath the mixed messages on the surface.

Don't have it raining when it should be a sun shiny day!

Two Little Acts

Yesterday I met a couple, Ian and Ani, at a political event I was organizing. He's on the committee, it was my first time meeting with her and seeing them interact as a couple. While the speaker was up, Ani rubbed Ian's back. When I asked Ian to get up and say a few words about our campaign, he did and when he sat back down I said to him: "You were awesome! Thanks for doing that." And he replied "It's all because of my wife, she taught me everything I know." And he smiled at her.

"WOW" I thought "that was powerful".

The bond between them was given recognition by two simple acts.

This showed me that keeping his wife happy brought happiness to the husband as well.

A Day In The Life

It is going to be a busy day for us today.

I started my day out by journaling and reflecting. I guess I've reached that age where I would rather write and reflect than jump out of bed and take action! Then I always like to spend a bit of time on the computer doing all the little tasks I have to do and this one is one of my favorite parts of the tasks!

After breakfast we are off to our church. It is a new one that we are going to and it is amazing. There are a lot of fabulous benefits to being a part of a community of faith and I must tell you that we come away from the service bouncing in anticipation for the upcoming week and putting our faith into action. (Note: If you aren't coming out of your church with the same bounce, I suggest checking out some others. It worked for us!)

This afternoon we are attending a Craft Fair at a Senior's residence. I sit on their board and I like to attend there events and support them. There are some fabulously talented people who sell their crafts and there are some others who just work judiciously to be a part of it. I just enjoy being there and chatting with the residents and staff. (I usually buy some things I can use as little gifts throughout the year.)

The third event on our agenda today is a wine and cheese to meet the candidate in our riding who is up for re-election to our federal government. Both Canada and the United States are having elections in the next little while. And maybe other countries too. Our media is so heavily tied into the people south of our border that we pretty much know what is going on with them just as much as we do our own country. Anyway, this little event this afternoon is only an hour for folks to come out and meet our candidate. Helmuth and my job has been to liaise with the hostess and our campaign office. We'll be there early to help set up and greet the guests. We've done a few of these now and although the numbers aren't high - I think we have to re-think our way of inviting people - by personal invitation instead of by mail drop - they are a great way for people to meet the candidate in a personal manner.

Helmuth and I both like to get involved with volunteer organizations and there are some committees he is on and some that I am on that we don't do together, and then there are things we do together. Today will be a nice together day.

Get Me Through the Day

Sometimes you just need to leave some loving words. You say it will make your day thinking about her and it'll make hers too - just thinking about you thinking about her. Warm fuzzies all day long....

You should not confuse your career with your life.

Laugh For Your Wife's Sake!

Laughter is good for the soul

Laughter is good for your relationship

Laughter is good for your health

Laughter is good for your sanity

Click here to watch the Laughter Chain and be good to yourself for your wife's sake!

Make Your Wife Happy by Showing Her Your Inner Enthusiasm

Someone asked me recently how to be more enthusiastic. Its a good question and one that is a good one to think about in a marriage.

For some people enthusiasm is just a part of their being. We all know those people. But maybe you aren't a bubbly, outgoing person whose enthusiasm can be seen.

How does your wife know that you are enthusiastic about her? I think one way to be enthusiastic is to let her know how much you appreciate her.

My husband is the quiet type but I know he is enthusiastic about me. My husband doesn't say much - he says he believes in the principle: tell people things only on a need to know basis. As a communicator, I have a different philosophy - but that is another story. My point is that even though he doesn't say much, he does make sure I know the things that are important to me. He lets me know daily how much he loves me and how much he appreciates me. To me that is showing his enthusiasm.

If you are looking for ways to make your wife happy, try letting her know about your inner enthusiasm for her.