Take Good Phone Messages

Take good phone messages if you want to gain good marks with your wife. It's simple really.

Make your wife happy by taking clear and accurate phone messages.

Have a note pad and a pen in an easy to find spot.

Some people have a white board for family messages and everyone in the family checks it when they come in. Others use a notepad affixed to their fridge.

Write down the name of the person and a short note such as "needs a ride tomorrow" or "book club Saturday. Call her." You could also add the time they called. Getting a clear message will make your wife happy!

If you have call display you don't need to write down the phone number but if you don't - please double check the numbers are correct.

If the language is your second language this can be especially important because I know you are doing more work because you are translating those numbers!


Of course you can always ignore the ringing phone and let voicemail or the answering machine pick up.

The difference between try and triumph is the umph!

Good relationships take more than trying....they take commitment and constant focus.

But then you knew that!

If you want to be loved, be lovable.

Ovid

Make Your Wife Happy by Helping Out At Home

Not only do women like it when their spouse is helping out around the home, researchers (according to a little magazine I was reading the other day) say that 'of 1000 men surveyed 90% of them find that pitching in at home makes them happier with their wives than sitting on the sidelines'. When women are less stressed then they are more supportive and accepting of their husbands. When a wife has help its makes her happy.

Now I couldn't find out who the researchers were or where they had done their survey but I thought I would share that little tidbit with you so you can continue making your wife happy.

There are many more tidbits with concrete things to do in my ebook and you can get yourself a copy simply by clicking on the link that will take you to the website "How to Make My Wife Happy". Give your wife a treat and yourself a bigger one.

Why?

I just keep thinking about the why. Why is my business in place? Why is the organization I work for doing what it is doing? Why am I a part of it? Why are my husband and I together? Why do you want to keep your wife happy?

Its easy to understand why my organization is doing what it is doing. We have a mission statement. If I get confused I just have to check the mission statement and it will tell me exactly why we are there and what is expected of me. I just have to think about the activity in question and compare it with the mission statement. Do the two match? If so, then I should carry on doing the activity. If they don't - then the activity has to stop. And I find one that fits with our purpose.

I think a marriage is like that. What is the mission statement of your marriage? What a silly thing to ask! But if you think back to your vows of marriage, words like "to love and cherish, in sickness and in health" will probably jump into your mind.

So, going to the bar after work, drinking with the buddies and showing up in the middle of the night and without so much as a phone call probably doesn't fit onto the "love and cherish". Really? Well who would treat someone they love and cherish in that way? Shawna lived with a man who continually exhibited this behavior. One day she asked herself exactly that question. And even though the make up sex was great, she realized the marriage wasn't. She didn't feel loved and cherished. This wife was not happy! Shawna left. Darrell is still enjoying his buddies and they keep him company most evenings.

But then it gets harder. What if you both have an idea of what the new kitchen should look like and you think it will be best this way and she thinks it will be best that way? You say, I love and cherish you - and this will make our lives better if we do it this way. She has the same comment from a different point of view. In this case it comes down to working together to find a solution that you both can live with. In the end it is finding a way to love and cherish and letting go of having to be right.

I guess I am thinking about kitchens right now because ours is in the midst of being renovated. My husband is busy 'mudding' and 'sanding' and getting the wall ready for the new cabinets to arrive. He's working very hard. We didn't have any arguments over how the kitchen should look - fortunately. He's got a good eye for design and so mostly he has made the decisions. We had a slight disagreement about the color of the cabinets but in the end he got his color choice because, once again, I know he has a good eye. He has proved it to me in the past! We did stop everything though while we re-discussed the color of the cabinets. In the end we went with the lighter ones. And then I wanted stainless steel appliances, he wanted white appliances. I wanted the color of stainless steel but I didn't like the fact that I couldn't keep it clean and that - believe it or not! - that I couldn't put magnets on it. We discussed it. I really did not want white appliances! In the end we bought black ones!

How do you keep your wife happy? Think about why are you with the woman you love? Isn't it because you love and cherish her? And in the end doesn't it all come back to the fact that if you love and cherish and make her happy you will feel loved and cherished and happy too?

Just a thought for this morning....

Champagne Anniversary

Someone told me that when you have an anniversary and the number of years and the number of the date are the same, it is called your champagne anniversary.

So last night we celebrated our Champagne anniversary with champagne! It was lovely. A nice catered meal, roses from our garden as a center piece. The good dishes.

The best part of having a romantic evening is that our attention is focused on each other and not on other things.

Having told you this, I'm doing so because I know you are looking for ways to make your wife happy and I was a very happy wife last night! And I might add, my husband was happy too!

When ‘till death do us part’ has added meaning

New charity Wish Upon a Wedding helps terminally ill people fulfill dreams, celebrate.

This is great. Read on.

Wives, Waves, and A Good Day on The Ocean

Marriage, or any relationship for that matter, can be compared to the waves that you see on the ocean. There are some days when our marriage is going along smoothly just like a nice calm day on the ocean. We think that it is utopia and we enjoy the bliss this day can bring. But then a wind comes along and blows the water around and soon we have waves getting bigger and bigger. These waves can be compared to the emotions and disagreements that two people can find effect their relationship. Some days the water can be quite choppy! And we wonder how we will make it though. You may find yourself wondering "How can I make my wife happy?" There are seasons on the ocean....ones where the clouds come in and stay for days and weeks on end, but then there are refreshing rains and lots of sunshine at other times.

I guess what I am trying to say is that it is natural for there to be ups and downs, stormy weather, calm times and everything in between in a marriage. Don't despair because things might not be going as smoothly today as they were yesterday. That time can come again. You and your wife can be happy again.

If you would like help to get you and your loved one through the stormy times click here for help and great ideas to make your wife happy and yourself happier.

Oh! Oh! Watch out! Here comes a breaker! Hold on! (lol!)

Chuckle time!

Dispatcher: 9-1-1 What’s the nature of your emergency?
Caller: My wife is pregnant and her contractions are only two
minutes apart
Dispatcher: Is this her first child?
Caller: No, you idiot! This is her husband!

LOVE ME WHEN I LEAST DESERVE IT BECAUSE THAT IS WHEN I MOST NEED IT.
- Swedish proverb

Latest headline from the UK

Want to keep the wife happy? Be miserable or risk divorce.

Its an interesting little article that you can find here.

But if you really want to know how to make your wife happy, click here.

Happy Valentine's Day! All you men out there who want to please your wife know that this is a special day for the women of North America and beyond! Its the perfect day for all you men who are wondering "how to make my wife happy".

I will tell you that you don't have to spend money on your wife and that your actions are the important thing. And having said that I also have to say that my wonderful husband bought me a dozen long stemmed pink roses 4 days before Valentine's Day for me to enjoy all week long and then today he gave me a wonderful card that brought tears to my eyes. He handed it to me along with the cup of coffee he had made for me to start my day.

Very romantic? I think so! My husband knows how to make his wife happy!

He doesn't like me buying him cards and presents so I didn't. It was hard because I like to do that, but I knew that he wouldn't be pleased. And not receiving anything did please him. And I got a hug for it!!!

Supper tonight? Something romantic at home where we both want to be - together with no disturbances!

Important fact to remember: what is it that your wife wants to make her happy? What will make a woman happy is having a husband or lover who thinks about what she wants and doing those things that she has told you she likes.

I hope your Valentine's finds your relationship in good health and the two of you finding ways to please each other.

And don't forget, if you need more ideas, just click here to take you to a great many more concrete ideas that you can use to make your wife happy.

Valentine Thoughts to Text

I found these quotes on a website this evening and thought I would share some of them with you. Why not text your wife with one of these each day until Valentine's Day?

"If I could reach up and hold a star for every time you've made me smile, the entire evening sky would be in the palm of my hand."
-Unknown

"You don't marry someone you can live with - you marry the person who you cannot live without."
-Unknown

"Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking outward together in the same direction."
-Saint-Exupery

"A kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature to stop speech when words become superfluous."
-Ingrid Bergman

"Better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all."
-St. Augustine

"To love another person is to see the face of God."
-Les Miserables

"Love is but the discovery of ourselves in others, and the delight in the recognition."
-Alexander Smith

"The richest love is that which submits to the arbitration of time."
-Lawrence Durrell

“Very small degree of hope is sufficient to cause the birth of love."
-Stendhal

"There is no remedy for love but to love more."
-Thoreau

"Love cures people - both the ones who give it and the ones who receive it."
-Dr. Karl Menninger

"To love and win is the best thing. To love and lose, the next best."
-William M. Thackeray

"If you love someone, let them go. If they return to you, it was meant to be. If they don't, their love was never yours to begin with..."
-Unknown

"Some love lasts a lifetime. True love lasts forever."
-Unknown

"If love is great, and there are no greater things, then what I feel for you must be the greatest."
-Unknown

"The Eskimos have 52 words for snow because it is so special to them; there ought to be as many for love!"
-Margaret Atwood

"Love is like playing the piano. First you must learn to play by the rules, then you must forget the rules and play from your heart."
-Unknown

And don't forget to check out my website for all you husbands "How to Make Your Wife Happy and Yourself Happier"

Secret to a Long Marriage

A husband asks his wife,
'You never argue when I get mad at you.
How do you always control your anger?'
'I clean the toilet,' she replies.
'How does that help?' he asks.

'I use your toothbrush.'

Perfect Love

We are all seeking a perfect love.

When you first meet and fall in love with the person of your dreams your old brain (that part of your brain that is the most basic part of that very complicated computer system in your head) expects to find someone who will meet all the needs and desires. Those needs and desires that your parents met when you were a tiny baby.

When you first meet someone they are usually on their best behavior and everything is so great (thinks your old brain) because you have finally found someone just like mama who did all those wonderful things for you.

Of course the problems come when the two of you make a commitment and you both go back to being yourselves. No more best behavior, no more doing it all for the other person. People invariably settle back and human nature is such that we think the other one will continue to cater to our every (expressed or unexpressed) desire. It is not so of course and then there is trouble in paradise.

...To be continued...

Make Your Wife Happy by Leaving A Will

Last night my husband and I watched a movie called The Bonneville starring Jessica Lange, Kathy Bates and Joan Allen. It is the story of a recently widowed woman who sets out in her late husband’s ‘66 Bonneville Convertible’ with her two best friends to deliver her husband ashes to her stepdaughter. The second wife and the step daughter didn't appear to get along and it looked just like a lot of second marriages that I have come into contact with.

Certain events happen to the three friends on the trip to the funeral organized by the stepdaughter that encourage the widow to fulfill her husband's wishes for his final remains instead of his daughter’s careful carrying out of his long out-dated written wishes.

This is a fun movie but one that has a very real message to husbands to make sure their personal affairs are in order when they die. This movie really highlights what can happen when a person doesn’t get around to writing out a current will when their life circumstances change. To keep your wife happy, make sure you have a will and make sure that you have clearly and legally spelled out who is to get what and what you expect to happen to your final remains. Saying that you don't care is just not good enough if you don't want to cause heartache and if you want to continue to make your wife happy even after you die! It took my second husband and I quite a few years to take ourselves to a lawyer and put our new wishes into legal and signed print. And when we did it was painless! We are very lucky nothing happened to either of us in the meantime.

In the movie, the now deceased husband, had remarried after the death of his first wife. He had moved states and he had 20 years of blissful marriage before he unexpectedly died. His daughter inherited the house and his remains. In real life, at least in Canada, the wife would be able to contest the will and get at least half of the house’s appraised value. For the movie of course, she just lost everything.

When a person is grieving (or anytime for that matter), going through a lawsuit is not something that should have to happen. The daughter, in this movie, and in many situations in real life, resented the second wife. She didn’t have any compassion for the woman and didn’t try to make it easy. I can see both sides of this picture. The daughter is fighting to hang onto her father - from a new woman that seems to have replaced her mother and from death. The new wife (in this case new as in 20 year marriage!) has had an intimate relationship with this man and has promised to carry out the wishes that he has told only her about. There really are no sides to take. Both women are doing the best they can even though the man (father and husband) hasn't lived up to what he could have done to make things easier.

If you or your spouse haven’t updated your will lately, I suggest that you watch this light and humorous movie and then make an appointment with your lawyer. In some areas of the world you can simply have your will notarized, but I suggest that you get legal advice if you are in a second relationship.

For full instructions about what to do when someone you love dies, read the e-book by the same name. For more ways to make your wife happy, check this site.

PS Thanks Sandy for telling me about the movie, it was a well worth watching.

Spend Summer Together to Make Your Wife Happy

It is important to know when to do things separately and when to do things together. A sense of independence is a good thing as long as it is complemented with lots of quality time together. When there is too much time spent apart, you cannot make your wife happy and your marriage can be in danger of ending.

Gord developed a life of his own and he didn't spend much time with his young wife and growing family. Gord liked to play pool and drink beer after work and on the weekends at the corner bar by his workplace. Sarah liked to sing in a choir, volunteer with a senior's organization and read stacks of library books. When Gord was at home, he watched sports on TV and Sarah read in another room. The children moved in and around the two separated parents. Looking back on it both Gord and Sarah admit that neither husband nor wife were happy.


Then something miraculous happened. They bought a summer place on a lake not too far from the town in which they lived. The family started to spend weekends together; then they started to meet their neighbors and their social life became family events at the lake and in town with their "lakee" neighbors.

Life in the summer was spent renovating the cottage, waterskiing, visiting and eating around the evening campfires. Life in the winter included social events with the same people.

Sarah and Gord's marriage turned from one of a lot of separateness into one of combined bliss! Gord was truly making his wife happy by spending time with her and the children.

Its a good story - and a true story and I was reminded it of it as the hot summer sun is shining into my studio window. Gord had learned how to make his wife and family happy and in the process became much happier himself.

Not Understood? Say it in a New Way

My husband and I had a fight today, right in front of our good friends Terry and Al. My husband had told me something and I clearly didn’t understand because I responded in a way that did not make any sense to him. So he repeated what he had said. And I responded again in the same way.

He finally lost his temper and said “Why don’t you listen to me?” Now, I was listening to him. But I wasn’t getting any clues as to the fact that he meant something different than I was interpreting.

This definitely wasn't a case 'how to make your wife happy'!

Our friend Al said “What part of it didn’t you understand?” I said “All of it!” And then I asked “Can you say it in other words?”

And so my husband rephrased his statement. Oh! I got it! I finally understood.

The reason I am writing about this now is because there is a song on the radio right now and it has the lyric “Say what you need to say”. John Maher, the singer, repeats the phrase over and over and over again. (I counted 16 times!)

My point is don’t keep repeating the same thing. Rephrase it. It helps people to understand it and in the case of John Maher would make the song so much more interesting! Don’t say the same thing over and over. Rephrase it so that the person who is listening can hear it in a new way.

People have different perceptions about what things mean and when they are stuck in one way of looking at something they sometimes need to be physically or at least metaphorically moved to see the meaning of your words. Change the words – move into a new position and think about how you can get your point across in a new way.

Ok, I think I have said that enough. This post is over.

Make Your Wife Happy: Understanding the Power of YES and NO

Do you want to know how and when to say yes to keep your wife happy and how and when to say no to make your wife happy? Is it possible? Can you do it?

Of course, you can and no it isn't hard!

I've taught courses in communications where I have espoused the notion: "Say ‘yes' every chance you get". I've also taught courses in Stress and Time Management that say "Just say no." So what is it? I'm going to suggest to you that there is a time and a place for each - but the key to remember is that you are always saying "yes" to building an even greater relationship with your wife and "no" to the outside influences that can detract from that relationship.

In a relationship, yes is a very good little word to call upon especially when you are focusing on how to make your wife happy and how to keep your wife happy! Being open and positive to the events that take place in a relationship can help to rejuvenate, invigorate and fulfill a couple's joy of each other.

It can make a good marriage into a great one.

You can read the rest of this article on my website.

Have a wonderful - almost summer - day!